Happy Friday Pretty!!
Ever heard the phrase: hindsight vision is always 20/20?
Well whoever said that, was 100% right!! If we had the chance to turn back time, maybe we'd make the decision to change a few things here and there. Our natural hair journeys are no different. In fact, here are 4 things I wish I knew before I went natural:
1. You will miss your permed hair...
..but only for a while!! Trust me, I know how tempting it can be to look at relaxed hair and think it is "easier" or even "prettier". Social media, television and print media have programmed us to think lighter, wavier, straighter hair is the jewel of beauty while kinky, curly, afro hair is "tough", "unprofessional" or "unkempt". But guess what, every day, hundreds of women are making the decision to wear their kinks and curls au naturale so hang in there, the community is growing! With time, you'll wonder how you ever slapped creamy crack on to your gorgeous tresses!
2. You will feel overwhelmed...
..but you'll soon learn what works best for your hair. When I first went natural in 2011, there were probably 20 or so hair bloggers and a couple of YouTubers I looked up to. Now, in 2016, this number has grown exponentially! There are several hundred sites with volumes on information on how to take care of natural hair. It's a lot, I know. But hang in there love. As you begin to learn what works best for your hair, you'll gain confidence in nurturing your strands. Time takes time.
3. You will feel jealous..
...but eventually, you'll find the beauty in your own tresses. Now let me admit this for your benefit: there's many times I've sat on my bed watching YouTube videos and sneered (heck even made a face and stuck my tongue out) at a naturalista with some gorgeous tresses. *Yes, face in both palms*. I've felt envious many times and thought to myself, "damn, when am I EVER going to get there!?" Haha! I'm just being real with y'all!! Look, jealousy/envy is absolutely normal. Trust me, it soon turns into joy when you see another natural on the train rocking her kinks and coils. The great thing with natural hair is that, in the end, we all win!
4. You will feel less than confident at first...
...but with time, you'll discover your unique look and slaaayyy!! Look, I understand this too well: it takes a while to gain the confidence to wear out our natural tresses. Trust me, when I had a tiny winy afro - I'd have to psyche myself up to walk with my head held up high. I'd be ever so uncomfortable if anyone asked me a question about my hair. It took a while to see my hair as beautiful and to really allow it to frame my face as beautifully as it was always meant to. Now, I walk with my held up high because I know my hair is flyyyyy, and I'm learning I don't need anyone's validation to feel beautiful.
Oh and here's a quote that motivates me when I'm feeling a little bleh about myself. Ya know, when I'm all up in my feelings!
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~Marianne Williamson
Have you been natural for a while? If so what advise would you give your transitioning/big-chopped self? What have YOU learnt along the way?
As always I'm sending you lots and lots of love and sunshine!!